You Will Have Many Great Adventures This Year – In Bed
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If your family participates in the long-standing tradition of seeing a movie and eating at a Chinese restaurant on Christmas day, you may have played the familiar game where you sex up the predictions received in fortune cookies by adding "in bed" to the end of the fortune. When you're making your list of New Year's resolutions this week, I strongly urge you to do the same thing. Like any other area of your life, your sex life benefits from regular appraisal and thoughtful commitment to improvement. Below are some sex-filled add-ons to common resolutions...
Oral Communication
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My wife and I had a sexual relationship for a little more than seven years before we got married. For that entire time, and for quite a few years after we were married, oral sex was always part of foreplay, and from time to time she would go down on me until I came. Then the blowjobs abruptly stopped, and she no longer wanted me to go down on her, presumably because she would feel obliged to return the favor. This went on for what must've been a year or more. I would ask before or during sex, or try to bring up the subject at some other time...
Open Marriages, Secrets and Lies
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My wife and I met when she was 14 and I was 16. For the past 26 years we have had an open marriage-as long as there were no secrets. I just found out (through her unattended e-mail) that she has a secret boyfriend. I know this person, and he knows of our agreement. She said she didn't tell me because it was a one-time fling, and now they just e-mail or talk on the phone. But some of the e-mails (18 months' worth) were very hard for me to stomach. I have demanded she end this relationship. She says she has, but I still...
Anatomy and Algebra
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Last week I moderated a panel at UW-Milwaukee as part of the campus' observation of World AIDS Day. I have to admit that, before the event, I was worried about what kind of attendance we'd get. HIV used to be the thing that grabbed people's attention, the sexually transmitted infection that could kill...
What’s Up Down There?
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At almost any class that I lead on a college campus, I receive questions similar to the following ones from a UW-Milwaukee workshop on sexual pleasure: "How do you convince a girl to put it in her ass?" and "Can girls have anal orgasms?" Since these questions were submitted anonymously, I don't know the gender of the people asking, but they are similar in tone to questions that I get from young men who are interested in "convincing," cajoling and otherwise pressuring their female partners to take part in an act that is still viewed by many as taboo...
Give Yourself a Hand
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Since it's Thanksgiving, I wanted to choose a topic that related in some way to our families, and I settled on masturbation. Stay with me if you're thinking, "Masturbation? What does that have to do with family?" Our two questions are: 1) If you masturbate a lot, isn't it true it could make it more difficult to be stimulated by someone else and get used to a new style? 2) Orgasm during sex vs. masturbatory orgasm seems so different that I'm not sure if I've had an orgasm during sex. Are orgasms generally so vastly different?
On Gender and Genitals
November 20 is the International Transgender Day of Remembrance, founded in 1998 to memorialize those who are killed due to fear of or bias against transgender people. According to one estimate transgender people have a one in 12 chance of being murdered, compared to one in 18,000 for the general population. If you haven't heard about this day, I encourage you learn more by attending UWM's candlelight vigil, which will take place at the UWM Union, Room 179 at 6 pm next Wednesday, November 19.
Slutty Pirates, Ponies and Princesses Unite!
In late October a few years ago I was teaching an undergraduate seminar on gender and sexuality. One of my female students stormed into class clutching a copy of the student newspaper, in which there was an article written by two male students that basically mocked women for dressing as sluts on Halloween. "Gone are the days when girls would dress as ghosts, ponies and princesses," they wrote. "In college, you have to be a slutty ghost...
I’ll Tell You Mine If You’ll Tell Me Yours
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How do I bring up nontraditional sexual topics with my wife of many years? This is a short and to-the-point question that could have a very long answer—whole books, in fact, have been written on this topic. But you don’t specify what “nontraditional sexual topics” you are interested in. For some people...
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